The Guide To Funeral Etiquette

The Guide To Funeral Etiquette

Attending a Funeral is not an everyday occurrence.

This guide will help you say and do the Right Things.

What Should I Wear?

Dress conservatively and wear muted and/or dark colors. Men should always wear a blue blazer (and often a tie) and women should wear modest clothing that is appropriate for a job interview (but still muted and/or dark colors).

Should I Attend?

If you are invited you should make every effort to attend. If you are not invited but know the person or family well enough to wonder if you should attend, then attend the funeral. The only exception to this rule is when the funeral is private.

When Should Guests Arrive?

Approximately 15 minutes before the beginning of the service.

Where Should I Sit?

Anywhere other than the first few rows which are reserved for the family.

What Is The Proper Etiquette For Cell Phones?

Your cell phone should be off. Do not mute it, turn off the power.

What If I Am A Different Religion?

While it isn’t your funeral, you still should not do or say anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you feel uncomfortable, you can still show love and respect for the deceased and the family by attending and sitting quietly.

What If I Want To Cry?

If you feel that you want or need to cry, then cry. Don’t worry about what you think people will say. If you are overwhelmed you can go outside or to the foyer.

Can I Leave Early?

No, you should not.

Should I Attend The Reception?

Yes. Even if you were unable to attend the funeral go to the reception.

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